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I have no idea many people would you argue contrary to the value of giving thanks, such like the surface it seems that I am simply preaching for the choir here. It’s easy to enjoy it for each of the blessings we now have in our life like family, friends, health, food, shelter, etc. Expressing gratitude been specifically linked to numerous benefits starting from better mental and physical health, to improved relationships and productivity.
I recently entered gratitude right into a search on Google and yes it returned 109,000,000 results, and I noticed a disturbing trend. Based for the top links that went back it appears that a lot of people are using gratitude for selfish aims. Among the top links that made a comeback on page one inch my search were: “The 31 Benefits of Gratitude You Didn’t Know About,” “Can Gratitude Make Millennials More Successful?” and “7 Surprising Health Benefits of Gratitude.”
In my experience, the one genuine practice of gratitude is the place where it is done to enrich others. In fact, within my regular practice of gratitude I specifically ask the recipient to not acknowledge it, instead, when they feel compelled to react, to send out a similar message of gratitude to someone in their lives OTHER THAN ME!
I assume that expressing gratitude for selfish reasons could eventually backfire in the same manner I see general selfishness and greed eventually revisit bite people. It’s not easy to do, but also in the long run, helping others will satiate a lot faster than only purchasing for yourself.
Our society has grown to be obsessed with results, to its detriment, during my humble opinion. I have found the need for results makes those very results a smaller amount likely to occur. That’s why my focus relies primarily on process and purpose. Unfortunately, I do not have the time to go into process and purpose (and often will in a future short article) as I wish to tackle another issue with how people practice giving thanks.
The other problem I have with all the way people express gratitude is because they often pinpoint the easy things. If you’ve read my blogs before, you could have likely seen me utter the words: ‘Life is 10% what are the results and 90% how we react to it” (although I now believe it’s a lot more like 3% and 97%). I have personally learned that once I learned to embrace the not so good things that have happened in my opinion, and be grateful for them, it accelerated my growth exponentially.
As a youngster, I used to curse the fact life has not been fair and infrequently felt sorry for myself. I think an enormous reason I felt using this method was because my mother died two days before my fourth birthday. Regardless of the cause, all feeling sorry for myself did was create a bad situation worse.
I eventually realized there were a positive side to losing my mom with a young age. It forced me to be a more sensitive and empathetic person and people traits serve me even now. I’m even grateful for those people who bullied me or took benefit from me when I was down, for I would donrrrt you have gained the precious skills or knowledge I have, otherwise. These experiences forced me to know how to problem solve at the young age and think on my own feet. All of these traits and skills are vital on the work I do today.
In addition, I also suffered deep depression and anxiety after my mom kicked the bucket, but fighting those battles helped me a better person. Though it took longer than I would have liked, I like those I am today.
Having said so much, if I could choose, I would throw in the towel all of these benefits inside a second to possess my mother back after only a few days. But I can’t choose, so I have learned to experience the cards I have been dealt inside a forward looking way.
It’s all to easy to fall into the trap of planning on what would have or may have been. In my case it will be if my mother had lived. But those fantasies are loaded with inaccuracies since they envision an idealized version of anybody I am now, and also the reality is I may have developed into a completely different person. Perhaps even an entitled spoiled momma’s boy with little or no compassion, for many I know.
If you desire to accelerate your growth, learn to obtain gratitude for the things which you missed out on or that went wrong, as well as the issues that went right, and once you choose to express it outwardly, undertake it to enrich others never to receive any benefits for your self.